Don't Take it Personally

Never miss an opportunity to make others happy,

even if you have to leave them alone in order to do it.

~Author Unknown

Don't Take it Personally

For some reason people like to take out their feelings upon others. Have you ever caught the wrath of a family member, friend, co-worker or complete stranger that was unsolicited? What happens in these situations? Well, we usually become quite defensive and attack the person back because we feel they are attacking our character. But how would you feel if you knew that although this person is spewing negativity in your direction, it actually has nothing to do with you? So many times people do and say things that get us so worked up and upset. They can ruin our day or have us questioning our own self-worth. When you can emotionally remove yourself from the situation at hand though, you can take a step back and realize that this negativity isn't really about you. It has everything to do with the person that's aiming it at you and they are really just yelling at themselves and using you as a mirror. When people come at you, say mean things about you or to you, release anger upon you, the best (and hardest) thing you can do in that moment is to not take it personally. Don't let another person ruin your day or shape your experiences based on their own personal turmoil. Remember, you may not be able to change that person or their attitude but you can change how you perceive the situation and your actions that follow. By not taking it personally, you will start to live a more freeing and centered life. You will find much needed peace in tough situations. Never let another person define who you are, dictate how you feel or control the direction of your life. Learn how to not take things so personally and enjoy your life for what it is ~ your life!

(The next four pearls will be based on the four agreements from the book, "The Four Agreements" by Don Miguel Ruiz.)