Boundaries

To free us from

the expectations of others,

to give us back to ourselves -

there lies the great,

singular power of self-respect.

~Joan Didion

Boundaries

There are times that you are tested, pulled, or pushed. People will try and take your power away by telling how to be, what to do and how to do it. It is in these times that you need to find your inner power and create boundaries for yourself and others. Boundaries are just that, places where another is only allowed to go if you let them. If you learn how to use boundaries in the right way, you will protect yourself from other peoples projections, anger and opinions. No one is the ruler of you. No one can take away your power ~ well only if you let them. Too often it is easy to let it go, to relinquish it over to a "stronger" personality. But this action only makes you suffer more. Don't confuse building walls with having boundaries. "Walls" are built because you have had a painful experience and you refuse to let your heart get hurt again. "Boundaries", on the contrary, are what you place around your spirit so that you let only love in. Others will clearly feel what they can or can't get away with when it comes to your time, your feeling and your experiences. Setting boundaries with family, friends, co-workers, children, pets, etc. is one of the healthiest things you can do to make sure you never lose your inner power and strength. Take a look at your life. Where do you feel that you've lost control; that your opinions don't matter; that someone else is ruling your life? Start putting up some much needed boundaries out of love today and watch how your inner voice and strength come rushing forward.