Betrayal

Betrayal

Being hurt by another person, a group of people, a situation or worse yet, yourself is just so painful. Feeling that level of hurt and disappointment, especially coming from those you trust is just downright heartbreaking. Trust is sacred and when that's broken, well we too can feel broken inside. It's saying to someone else I am handing you my vulnerability and asking you to guard it and when they don't, you feel like you didn't even know them really in the first place.  But why do we feel the need to trust other people with all that we hold so sacred in ourselves? Is that we feel we can't even be trusted with how we feel or maybe is it that we just don't really know how to trust ourselves fully? Sometimes the hurt comes from outside and sometimes it actually comes from within ... or maybe even a little of both.  Either way, there is work to do and guess what? It doesn't require another soul to do it - it only requires you! Betrayal doesn't require an apology from that person (heck most of the time you never get one anyway) and it doesn't require you to hold that anger until the end of time (let me know how that's going if that's currently happening).  The only thing required is grace, love, and ultimately forgiveness of yourself.  Being betrayed is the hardest thing. Picking up the pieces can be even harder but the person you will become who finally understands your worth and truly decides to trust your own self with your greatest power - your vulnerability ... well then you just may become the unstoppable person you were meant to be all along.

Use Your Voice

Use Your Voice

Too many of us dull our light to make other people shine brighter.  You have thoughts, insights, and maybe even feedback that is important. Yet most of the time you second guess yourself and instead of voicing your thoughts, you remain silent or worse, end up agreeing with someone else who had the courage enough to speak up.  Somewhere along your journey you got the memo that if you agree, conform, be "good" then everything will be okay ... but then somewhere deep down inside that feeling does not resonate.  Staying silent slowly chips away at your soul. Why? Because your voice MATTERS in this world. You were not meant to just "go along to get along". You were meant to have the whole human experience and that means sharing who you are with the world. Stop making yourself smaller and invisible. You have much to contribute and it's time you allow yourself to speak up.  Sometimes all it takes is giving ourselves permission to be the one to say the thing that no one else will ... and that may just start a ripple that turns into a beautiful waterfall of change.

Birthdays

 

Birthdays

Birthdays are a time to not only celebrate but to reflect. It gives us time to pause and take inventory of our life. What is going well? What haven't we accomplished? What do we need to do differently? What do we need to stop doing altogether? What do we need to start doing that we have been putting off? Birthdays, just like New Year's (or truthfully it can be any day you choose) is a time to take inventory and plan a path forward that continues to support your growth, your goals, and your dreams. 

Remember ...

You are never too old to to create the life you have always dreamed of. 

You are never too old to leap for that dream. 

You are never too old to pick up that instrument.

You are never too old to make new friends.

You are never too old to join a supportive group of people.

You are never too old to try the spin class ... just start slow :)

You are never too old to fall in love.

You are never too old to create new habits.

Birthdays give us the opportunity to let go of the past, embrace the present, and forge a new future - one full of curiosity and awe.