Numbing

Everyone uses someting to numb themselves to all of the emotions that are inside. We are so afraid that if we start to feel everything, it will be too overwhelming so we numb those feelings by any means necessary.  We stuff them down with food or push them deeper with substances that make us forget we even have feelings. The more numb we get, the better we believe we are. We numb ourselves to protect ourselves but from whom and at what cost?

We feel emotions for a reason. They are our guide. They allow us to learn lessons, make different choices, and take different paths. When we numb our emotions we are also numbing our souls. In essence, we are telling ourselves we can't be trusted with our own feelings and emotions and if we can't trust ourselves, who can we trust?

Life can be really hard and really good (and everything in between) at times. If we don't allow ourselves our full range of emotions then we have numbed ourselves to being the human being we are meant to be. Feelings can be difficult to navigate and there are a ton of support mechanisms out there to help us through. Walking through the pain (with support and help) will be the greatest gift we can give ourselves for on the other side of that is peace.

The more you allow yourself to feel, the more you allow yourself to heal. Let this be the day that we all start numbing less and feeling more.

The Power of No

 The Power of No 

Helping others is a part of being human.  We are here, in part, to support and to connect but sometimes we can be too helpful. Sometimes we sacrifice our own needs in order to be there for someone else.  Sometimes we can lose ourselves completely and end up stretching ourselves too thin as we "help" everyone around us constantly. We feel depleted, tired, and our own "stuff" that needs to get done seems to be pushed off for a later time, even at the expense of our physical and mental health.

There is a time to say yes and be helpful but it should never be at the expense of your well-being. People can take advantage of your kindness and helpful nature too much.  Would they be there for you if you needed something? Really think about that.  Would those that pull on you constantly be there for you if you turned around and asked of them the same level of support and assistance all of the time?  If the answer is no then understand it may not be a friendship, that may be someone using you for your kindness and there is a difference. You know that though. You just need this reminder. This is your permission to see those situations for what they are and instead of choosing someone else, you get to finally choose you. Saying no to anything that does not serve your highest good is called a boundary.  If someone else doesn't like you putting up a boundary then that just shows you how one sided that relationship really is. Learning the art of saying no will free you from all that weighs you down.  It finally gives you permission to say yes - to you.

Superpower

Superpower

Each one of us was born with a unique set of characteristics and abilities. Nobody talks like you, laughs like you, thinks like you, or has the same set of skills as you.  Yet more often than not, you find yourself berating yourself for not being 'good' enough, 'smart' enough, 'thin' enough, 'tall' enough, 'athletic' enough, etc.  The story most of us are constantly telling ourselves is that we aren't truly worthy of a happy life because we are essentially 'not enough'. 

Well it's time someone bursted your bubble. Here's a secret ... you are perfect because of everything that makes you ... well you! You matter. 

Who you are matters. What you do matters. What you say matters. What you believe about yourself and others matters. What you strive for matters. How you treat people matters and how you treat yourself matters the most. Being who you are IS your superpower. Being your authentic self in this world is what people will connect to and what will make you feel connected to the world. Own your superpower like the hero that you truly are in your story.