Expectations

 

Expectations

Feeling overwhelmed lately; like you're in a vice grip that's getting a little bit tighter every single day? There seems to be so many expectations and yet only one you to get it all done. You look around and may feel like 'how does everyone else have their sh*t together except me?' Well here is a little secret - no one has it altogether, that's a bold face lie. Most of the time we are all just hanging on by a thread. But why? Why do we all feel like this? Most of it is do to the expectation we put on ourselves to be everything to everyone when the truth is the only person in this life we need to make feel whole is US! When we work on being authentic and not in control, we not only let ourselves off the hook but we also give ourselves the best gift - grace. We allow ourselves to get done what we can and give room to let go of that which really does not serve us any longer. If the past year plus has taught us anything, it's just that. Giving ourselves room to just be, room to say no, room to ask for help, room to let the laundry pile up, room to not overextend ourselves, room to stay in pajamas all day, room to take a day off to do nothing, room to turn off the tv and pick up a book, room to order in dinner and not cook, or even room to unplug for the entire weekend, will recharge our batteries and give us the energy we are all so desperately in need of.  It's time to set your expectations to a normal range and not that of being superhuman. 

Time

 

TIME

Time is a funny thing.  You think you have an infinite amount to get stuff done and so you find yourself saying, I will just do that tomorrow ... but tomorrow becomes a few days, a few weeks, maybe even a few years. You blink and all of the sudden you find yourself a little bit older but those important things on your to do list are still there. Most likely becuase they are your goals, your dreams, your desires and you have put everything and everyone else before you. Here's a secret though, you don't have as much time as you think you do. Now is the time to start living for you. Now is the time to go back to school, to change that job, to go on that date, to write that book. Rip up that to do list and just go do it for once upon a time there was a lot of time ...

Endings

Endings

Not everything is meant to last, be it shoes, mattresses, friendships, love, or even each one of us.  We all have a beginning, our journey in between, and an ending. We had no idea that our beginning was just that nor do we have an idea of when our ending will come. What matters is what we do on our journey. Are we living up to our talents and abilities? Are we trying your best every single day? Are we regrouping and getting ourselves back on track when we veer off? Are we taking the time to nourish our mind, body, and soul? 

At the end of your life will all of those people that you have touched, will they (despite the sadness) be able to celebrate the person that you were and how you showed up in the world? Will they be able to hold on to your legacy and keep your spirit going in all things?  

Ending can be sad but if we lived our lives using every ounce of our beings and that’s what people remember, then maybe we got it right!

Your Story

Your Story

There is only one you on this Earth. Your story is just as unique as your fingerprint and yet not many people know it. You keep it close to your chest. Sometimes there is a need to do that and other times there is a need to share it. Being vulnerable and sharing who you are can bring great healing to another person. Many times we are of the belief that no one will understand or know what you went through but there is will be someone whom your story will touch deeply.  Maybe it will even help them start to heal from theirs and in the telling of your story, you will find you find another deeper healing in your own. Our stories and shared experiences are what connects us. Be vulnerable enough to share your with the right people. You just may set others and yourself free.

Be Gentle with Yourself

Be Gentle with Yourself

We are in a time of great upheaval. Our world has been turned upside down for almost a year with little end in sight. We are exhausted both physically and mentally. Yet, we still are expected to show up in life like before, or sometimes even stronger. Whether it is to help others in our personal life or even our professional life, it seems that we are asked to be doing more and to pivot as a moments notice without being able to process all this change. We are managing more than what anyone of us can truly handle for a sustained period of time and yet here we are not only doing it but also trying to find normalcy. This is an extraordinary experience that we are all living through and most of us, maybe all of us, are just trying to survive. Do yourself a favor and be gentle with yourself. Now is not the time to get frustrated. Know that you are doing the best you can right now in this moment. Give yourself a moment to breath, take a quick walk, walk away from the technology for a few minutes, and give yourself the space to find your center. It is there. It has always been there, it just got silenced with all the loudness around us. This is your permission to let yourself off the hook of being perfect in a pandemic and to just be - whatever that means to you - and know that who you are right now in this moment is more than enough.